WHAT TO DO?

To Make Wise Decisions!

Gail Oliver Cambridge | March 2026

We’ve all grappled with indecision about whether to leave a partnership, job, or situation. We may even have gotten a nagging feeling that something is wrong or we’re not where we are meant to be, but how do we quell that uneasiness?

Some people can quickly decide to change course while others struggle with their decision. Someone once stated that agonizing over a choice is often worse than picking something and living with the consequences. However, if we take that chance, we may not easily get untangled. Perhaps, it isn’t a negative setting where we find ourselves as we consider our next move. It can be that we’re in a funk and just need a “renew, revive, rejuvenate” break.

Evidently, we feel we must act—to stay or to go. However, we must not be impulsive. We should first examine our motives and clear our heads. Are our partners irritating us more than normal? Yes, but can it be because our attention is turned to the “hottie” who just came into our life? Are our eyes trained on something new that we would like and can’t have? Take the psychology of thinking of a car we would like to get; suddenly we see the make and model everywhere we look. Comparing people and situations to ourselves is not helpful and we all know that the grass is not necessarily greener on the other side of the fence. This realization should give us pause to water and fertilize the grass on our side!

I wrote here about three women who worked together in a job for over 50 years! They stayed because they enjoyed the benefits of a good working relationship and the conducive work environment. Few of us can testify to this, but if we’re stuck or have outgrown our position it may simply be time to earn a degree, take an online course, or recalibrate our priorities to get our juice flowing in some activity.

We may break out in sweats contemplating getting married, hiring someone for a senior position, closing a deal, or relocating to another city or country. We can weigh the pros and cons and rationalize all the information that looks good for a commitment, yet our intuition is leaning towards the other way. Gurus recommend following our gut feelings.

So, do we take the plunge? This is the moment to be introspective and figure things out. Are we the ones causing the issue? What can we do to improve the situation? People can move from relationship to relationship or from job to job and still be unhappy! Of course, no one should stay in an abusive relationship or undesirable environment.

How do we quash the gnat that’s biting? First, we will not allow anxiety to gain control but will calm ourselves and pray. We will also not be rushed or pressured into making a hasty decision. We will look around and be reminded that life has us exactly where we’re meant to be. It may not be the best situation right now and we may experience difficulties and suffering for a while, but we will not worry about things out of our control.

God’s blessings are upon us wherever we are. Recall the biblical story of Joseph who was thrown into a dry well by his brothers and endured numerous trials before he was made second-in-command to Pharaoh; through it all he remained faithful. For a more recent example, there are many incarcerated persons who have changed their lives after a spiritual encounter.

Friends, we must seek God’s guidance, trust, and wait on Him for clear direction. When we do, things may align so well and beyond anything we could ever imagine that we’ll know without a doubt it was the Lord’s hand.

As Proverbs 3:5-6 (MSG) states, “Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.”